From Lewis Howes
I was perusing the podcast circuit for some new listening material in 2019 and I found Lewis Howes’ poddcast “The School of Greatness.” The first episode I chose was (obviously) the one titled , “Love, Intimacy, and Relationships with Stephan Speaks.” Now, I had never of Speaks, also known as Stephan Labossiere, but the topic was enough for me to give it a try.
In the podcast episode , Howes, a motivational entrepreneur, author, former athlete and podcast creater, interviews Stephan Labossiere to hear his opinions about what to look for while seeking and building a strong, lasting relationship. Interestingly enough, Labossiere shares on the podcast that he himself is abstinent! He also isn’t married! This doesn’t stop him from dishing out advice to heterosexual couples (in this podcast I heard him speak exclusively about relationships between a man and a woman) about what makes things work.
Labossiere emphasizes that individuals need to do their own healing before they can find the connection they really want and says that if people aren’t ready, they can potentially sabotage a relationship, run away out of fear or bring toxicity into the space between the partners. He also discusses the importance of knowing who you are and living as your authentic self before you get into it with someone else.
Howes' asks Labossiere the most important things we should look for in a partner and Labossiere discusses connection (he elaborates on his idea of a true connection), balance (where both partners work as a team and complements the other) and attraction (which varies for everyone, as we know).
Labossiere also discusses sex, the importance of couples having “roles” (not specific gender roles though he does have opinions on this too), having difficult discussions about finances, attraction and other needs before getting married and what he thinks men should know about women and women should know about men.
Labossiere is like-able, clear and confident and has some interesting perspectives based on his work with couples, groups and the writing he has done. He prides himself on “keeping it real” and, from what I I heard, has done a lot of work and reflection on himself, which comes through in the interview. I He does have some traditional beliefs that could be off putting. For instance, he spends time talking about how men need to give off feminine energy and implies that traditional gender roles are probably best for a relationship.
I think that when you’re dating, looking for the right partner, reflecting on yourself and your own relationship, that it cannot hurt to take in all the information and sift through it to see what resonates with you… so I wanted to share this podcast here! Let me know what you think!!
Explore more about Lewis Howes and his podcast “The School of Greatness” on his website.